Post Abortive Mother Speaks Of Judging

This was shared with permission from my friend Catherine, over at Abortion Alternative Information And Support ( I happen to agree with her, and ask that you be respectful if you choose to comment.

“It is strange living with abortion.  More than strange – something close to crazy-making.  How, why, what…  How do you come to do something you hate, don’t want and don’t believe in?  More to the point, how did I come to do that?  A peculiar blend of elements seemed to combine to enable such a nightmare.  The most salient factor seemed to be my youth, my naivety, my closeness to a kind of folly related to passion and desire, in the end.  What a sorry mess!  I have no justification for abortion.  It took place in circumstances of fear, pressure, abandonment and terrible dependency on my part, a dependency conditioned, I can only suppose, by my damaged and damaging childhood.

Fear seems to have been the driving force… fear of being alone with a child, fear of the responsibility of imposing suffering on a child, fear of not being married, with a partner.  In the general lack of welcome for my child, I too abandoned him.  Unconsciously.  Incredibly.  If I and my child had been welcomed, if we lived in a society in which abortion was anathema, unthinkable… of course I would never have thought of it myself.

So the lesson of all of this seems to be, must be, there but for the grace of God go you.  No-one could have cared more deeply about life than I did… no-one could have been less casual about what abortion was and meant.  And yet… and yet… somehow I felt it was the most responsible and only thing to do.  How tragic!

Please understand that the problem is not the people having abortions… the millions of people… the problem is the terrible lie and illusion of abortion, that it is some kind of solution to something.  Please try to imagine yourself in the shoes of someone young, ignorant and frightened.  Alone.  Armed with that compassion, try to take it to your whole understanding of pro-life work.”

*By the way, this is my second post for the day, so have a look at the next post below if you’d like.


2 thoughts on “Post Abortive Mother Speaks Of Judging

  1. As a post abortive myself, it was 23 years before i told anyone my secret. Healing from God came instantly and i finally accepted it. When you are pregnant and give birth you carry that baby for 9 months. When you abort, you carry that baby forever.

    • Hugs to you, Julie. I’m so glad you were able to find healing. Praise God! 🙂 Did you read my open letter to abortion minded/post abortive parents? Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

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