For my siblings and me, this is Father’s Day number 20 without our father present. He passed away just 10 days before Father’s Day (that year, though his death anniversary can fall as early as 6 days before, as is happening this year). Despite the fact that we’ve all come a pretty long way on our journey of grief, these days, and the ones leading up are not without some pain and stress. That being said, my heart goes out to all who know tr this pain first hand. Know that you and your families are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find some unexpected joy and peace as we have often experienced on painful days. The same goes for those suffering on this day for other reasons (abusive father, perhaps or the loss of a child/children, etc). And for those who are blessed not to know this pain, I am sincerely happy for you and will keep you all in thoughts and prayers! But as someone who has suffered deeply from some comments/statements we’ve heard/ received, I ask that you do your best to be gentle to those of us who will not be feeling as celebratory. An example of a painful statement that is used a lot more these days is about the importance of fathers*. I don’t disagree with that at all, it’s just a harsh reminder that we are without such a powerful person in our lives. Plus, some of us are very defensive of our single parents and feel they are doing a great job under the circumstances, so feel stabbed at statements like that.
Hope this all makes sense and that you have a blessed weekend!
*= I mentioned ‘fathers’ because of the upcoming holiday, but have these same feelings regarding the ones who have lost their mothers/wives